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led astray

January 2013

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led astray

Must learn not to overburden warm weather friends with TMI.



I don't in any way think this post is aimed at me, but as one of your warm-weather friends (or, maybe more appropriately, occasional-weather friends), sometimes I just don't know how to react. Not to TMI, but to some of your recent (sad) posts. I'm sympathetic and I certainly hope things improve, but I couldn't come up with anything encouraging to say that didn't just sound empty and hollow, like saying "I'm sorry for your loss" when someone has died. So I'll just say "I'm sorry for your situation" and encourage you to go out with some any-weather friends and do something that brings a smile to your face.
- HitchinPost
This wasn't aimed at anyone. I'm trying to teach myself not to be wide open with everyone. Not everyone wants to know what's really going on, they just want a fun, pleasant interaction from a friend, without heavy stuff. But all I have is heavy stuff right now, so I have to learn better interpersonal engagement to remain friendly with those who only want to skim the surface. Not all friendships can be deep and tight.


I think I'm at a really shallow point in my life because I find that I just want fun, pleasant interaction from everyone, no matter how close they are to me. I think that's because I have clients who are facing prison sentences or are being sent involuntarily to mental hospitals. You know, serious, life-changing stuff that makes my own problems seem pretty meaningless. A healthy response would be to say that my clients' problems put my problems and those of my close friends and family into perspective, but instead, they seem to have sapped my ability to empathize. I'm not so much thinking of you here, more about my interactions with family members, where I'm finding myself more likely to drift into my own thoughts when they're telling me about their problems. I wonder whether that's a bit of how it feels to be autistic, though I do have to ability to turn my attention on and off. I just seem to turn it off more frequently than I used to.
- HP