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January 2013

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led astray

this won't have any fallout

None at all.  I won't get calls from my estranged aunts telling me what a shit I am for making my grandmother cry.  Tough.  This is what I wrote to her this morning:  

I was too tired last night for it to settle in, but something you said seem very wrong to me.  You said that how your mother acted towards you must not have affected you.  I don't think that's right at all.  And I think it's why you're bitter and why you put up with this man who treats you like dirt.  Because you know how to live that way since that's how your mother treated you.  That's not ok.  It was not ok for her to treat you poorly and shower favoritism on your niece.  And it's not ok for Bill to do this to you either.  Therapy might not hurt you to go to alone in addition to going to couple's therapy with Bill.  You have a lot of anger and loss and it's eating you from the inside and it makes me sad.  It's no wonder you have no empathy, constantly being on the defensive, ready to strike with the fierceness of growing up without enough love.

She wants to call me and lay her troubles on me, fine.  She gets the Clue-by-4!

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